what my girlfriends taught me

If you know me well, then you’ll know that friendship is one of the most important things to me. To quote Carrie Bradshaw, “Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with” and honestly these are words to live by as far as good friendships go. I’ve always been told since I was young that I’m good at making friends but the tricky part is choosing good ones and making those friendships last. Luckily, I have a group of amazing girls in my life that bring me so much joy. And to kick April off, I wanted to write about the importance of keeping close good friends because what is life without love and friendship right? I love the guys in my life too so don’t feel left out but this one is for the girls.

Good girlfriends are rare and special and everyone deserves some. Mine are always there for me. No matter how busy with school or work, how many kilometers apart, how separate our lives can be, at the end of the day, the connection is stronger than ever. They fill my life with adventure, spontaneity, laughter, singing, dancing, travel, long conversations and really good advice.

These are my best friends and this is what they taught me.
Claire how to be loyal
Claire is my first ever friend. We met when we were one years old and lived in townhouses next to each other (the universe clearly had a plan for us). 20 years later and I am not joking, this girl is still my best friend and I can’t imagine it any other way. When you spend this much time with someone, there is no way you can shake the friendship off (guess she is stuck with me). She’s the type of best friend you read about in good books or see in movies. Up until we graduated high school, we really did do everything together which included all of the firsts: riding a bike, learning to rollerblade, girl guides, camping trips, swimming, skiing, dance classes, French classes and school from six to eighteen. She taught me what loyalty means by sticking with me through thick and thin. I remember trying to wrap my head around the idea that we would finally be separated when she left for McGill and I stayed for uOttawa. Now fast forward four years later and long distance doesn’t bother me one bit. The really good friends are the ones where you could have spent half a year apart but when you reunite, it feels like nothing has changed at all. Claire is incredibly loyal, caring, smart, kind and I know she will always have my back and I will always have hers (we are a Taurus and Capricorn).
Deet how to be passionate
Deet I met in middle school and we connected right away. It felt like we bonded over everything since we are both really creative people. We loved spending afternoons together in art class painting, drawing, doing pottery or just having good life chats. We filled the summers with exploring, riding our bikes everywhere and getting inspired together. I’m really into art, design, taking photos, making videos or creating different content and she is too. Deet is in architecture and she’s really talented. Over the past years, I see how passionate she is about it, how much she loves it and how she gives it her all. This made me realize how important it is to do what you love and love what you do whether it’s school or career related.
V how to be fearless
V was the Polish girl with really big eyebrows at this all girls summer camp we both went to. I knew immediately that I wanted to be her friend. We were only 12 but I remember thinking that she was so cool. 10 years later and I still think she’s so cool or fearless to better put it. She’s the type of girl to create her own path, not care about what others think and dives into everything head first. Whether that was 10 years ago at camp, when she made me swim in the mud pit with her or now when she chooses the hardest ski hill or randomly plans a trip to Cuba. I admire how fearless she is with everything. I think that’s why we became so close – through our common love for travel and adventure and I’m slowly learning to get more out of my comfort zone with her always by my side. 
Rach how to be determined
Rach and I actually went to the same preschool (Claire too) but we only officially met each other in middle school. Rach has always been hard working, organized, headstrong and determined which I absolutely love. She knows her worth and doesn’t take shit from anyone. Something special I learned from her with time. Whether it’s telling guys to piss off when we’re out drinking or dancing the night away together without a single care, she is always determined to get exactly what she wants. She has a wild side ya – but she works hard plays hard. I learned a little determination goes a long way from her. Ever since we finished high school, she was the one who knew exactly what she wanted to do in life. She’s graduating this year with her degree in Human Kinetics and has racked up so many cool experiences working with sports teams so she’s well on her way to one day becoming a physiotherapist for an Nhl team or something.

Han how to dream big
Han is the friend who reminds me to dream big. She is absolutely beautiful, smart, kind and really good at what she does. She is an actress and just got nominated for a fucking Emmy! We met the beginning of high school and something just clicked for us. We share our love for New York city, art galleries, nice museums, cute cafes, shopping, all things pop culture, love to watch movies together then talk about them after. Han always dreams big and now I do as well. She never stopped chasing her dreams to act and didn’t let anyone tell her she wasn’t good enough. Something I really love.
Jen how to be authentic
Jen and I have been best friends for four years now since day one of frosh week, when I thought she was the biggest fob I ever met. I was like who is this girl and where did she come from? Now, I can’t imagine my life without her. She is without a doubt, one of my favourite people. They say the friends you make in uni will last you forever – at least this is definitely true for us. I spend most of my time now with her and my friend Lina since we all work downtown and have spent the past four years of school together. I grew up going to a really white school which meant white friends which is totally fine but it felt new and refreshing to make a friend that looks like me. We literally do everything together ranging from going to Whole Foods to long summer road trips. She is unapologetically herself and taught me to be too – to be proud of your culture, where you come from, your good qualities and bad qualities. She helps keep me grounded, real, down to earth and really honest.
Lina how to be ambitious
Lina is another one of my favourite people. I met her first year when I was making a grilled cheese. Besides having the nicest bum, she has the nicest ambitions. She reminds me to be ambitious as well. Whether it’s the ambition to travel somewhere nice, learn a new language, volunteer in a third world country or keep advancing in my career, this girl can hold me accountable and has some amazing goals of her own.
Ambition is that strong desire to do or to achieve something, typically requiring determination and hard work (which I think sums Lina up). She studies international development (something I was initially interested in), went to France for her exchange, has worked for different government departments, traveled to Africa recently to research women’s education and has the most impressive resume. I get inspired by her all the time and know that we will be friends for life.
Ok there you go. Appreciate every single person in your life and don’t forget to tell them. Surround yourself with people that excite you, inspire you, help you be better and who are always there for you. Fill your life with people who make you feel alive.



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